Adulting

I've been an adult for a while now, not just in age but also in having to dependant on myself as for the basics and the more non-tangible meaningful things. There have been really great times and amazing adventures but there have also been really really low and challenging times. This of course is part of the adult journey.

I've recently been going through a time of self-reflection and being more deliberate about what I allow into my life. I've learnt many lessons about myself and other people and the role they naturally play in your life and the roles you allow them to assume. I'm a firm believer that we create our own reality for the most part and as such living mindfully is important. Relationships change, the things we want in life change, we learn who we are through all kinds of circumstances and where I am in life at this point I know I need to play an active role in my growth.

Sounds all soppy and extra deep, and maybe it is but I think its necessary for people to know this revelation. Its a freeing thought to know you control who you are and who you allow to be in your space and how they affect you. Yes, there will always be things we cannot control but we can control how we respond to them. This is not to say, "Be a super control freak and don't let anything surprise you." There are always things that are out of our control, making peace with that can also be very freeing.

This is a particularly tough thing for me to do. I have a natural instinct to want to make things better, not just for me but for others and especially for those I care about and I often feel very disappointed when this is not taken in the way I meant it or when those same people are not willing to do the same for me. I'm working on it. I need balance in this area of my life and I know that.

Here's to adulthood, growth and being in control of your life.